Ladies: the taboo of sex on the first date could now be considered to be outdated.
Until recently, women were convinced that waiting a few dates to have sex was rule #1 in dating. Climbing into bed with a man so quickly would show that you are promiscuous or slutty, and would unquestionably disqualify you as girlfriend or marriage material.
Sex on the first date still might not be the route you want to take, and that's OK. The point is that women are starting to be able to be as sexually expressive as men, without the double-standard. Maybe it's time to bend the rules a little bit, when the sexual chemistry is palpable. "You've got to test drive the car before you buy it."
So, when you are trying to figure out why he hasn't called, can you eliminate the possibility that you "gave it up" too quickly; or is sex on the first date still frowned upon?
Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller, who teaches social psychology at Harvard University and studies sexuality and relationships, is joined by Jeff Wilser, co-author of It's Okay to Sleep with Him on the First Date: and Every Other Rule of Dating, Debunked. Together, they explain the male perspective of sex on the first date and their personal wisdom on the rules of dating and relationships.