That’s the main reason people cheat; it’s rarely about the sex.
Nurturing the connection you share with your partner every day gives you an advantage over everyone who is younger, hotter and perceived as physically more appealing. You can always find sex, but you can’t always find connection.
Is your relationship on autopilot? The demands of life can suck the life out of your relationship and you’re too tired to connect.
There are simple things you can do to improve your connection. Couples who text throughout the day report they have happier relationships and their relationships last longer. Couples who celebrate their successes together have a higher rate of longevity. Love requires face-to-face communication and eye contact.
It is important to share your intimate self with your partner. Confide and share your vulnerabilities. Hold these things sacred and don’t share them with other people to avoid opening the door to affairs. Save certain topics for your partner. Spend about 30 minutes talking to your partner every day. The more you invest, the less you will want to give your relationship away.
Trying new and exciting things together keeps you both invested in the relationship. This can be as simple as going to a new restaurant together or visiting a museum.
Couples do things to hurt one another’s feelings unintentionally. Maybe you shared an intimate detail your partner expected you to keep private. Sometimes you use a harsh tone and it rubs your partner wrong. It’s important to know how to apologize.
- Show remorse. Let the person know you are genuinely sorry for the pain you have caused.
- Take responsibility. Own the mistake you made. Don’t defend it. You may have had a good reason for the mistake, but now is not the time to justify it.
- Recognize how you have harmed the other person. Be willing to sit and hear the feelings of the person impacted. You have to listen to move on.
- Remedy the wrong. Make a plan to make things right. Work out a plan to keep it from happening again.
Your partner must be willing to change to meet your minimal needs in the relationship. If your partner is unwilling to do that, your relationship won’t survive.
Listen in as Dr. Jenn Mann shares how you can nurture your relationship and restore your connection.