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Is Rebound Sex a Way to Move On?

From the Show: Staying Well
Summary: After a breakup you might think the quickest way to get over someone is to sleep with someone else. But is that healthy?
Air Date: 2/17/14
Duration: 10
Host: Melanie Cole, MS
Guest Bio: Justin Lehmiller, PhD
justin-lehmillerJustin Lehmiller, Ph.D., is a an educator and researcher at Harvard University. He is also founder and editor of The Psychology of Human Sexuality blog which offers research-backed information about sex, love, and relationships to the general public.

He is an accomplished scholar and educator, authoring more than 30 scientific publications to date, including a sexuality textbook. He is frequently interviewed by leading media outlets, including The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and the Huffington Post.
Is Rebound Sex a Way to Move On?
You and your long-term partner just broke up, leaving you devastated, vulnerable and wanting to get over it as soon as possible.

What about rebound sex?

Before hitting the sheets with some random stranger, think of why you are really having rebound sex. Is it a way of revenge, to make your ex jealous? Or do you need a self-esteem boost?

If it truly is a matter of self-esteem, rebound sex might be a way to make you feel attractive, desirable and wanted again and to erase the memory of your ex. But if it's primarily about revenge, you might want to think twice.

In the long run, do random hook-ups help you move on faster and even expedite the process of  finding your next relationship?

Founder and Editor of The Psychology of Human Sexuality, Justin Lehmiller, PhD, shares how rebound sex can be beneficial but how it can also be a huge mistake.