When you were a young girl and puberty hit, you may have experienced a dramatic shift in the relationship between you and your mom.
If you're now in the mom role, especially to a pre-teen or teen, there might be times you can't get through a conversation without it turning into a screaming match. More frequent fights, slamming doors, and the silent treatment can all be a part of this new dynamic.
Why does this happen?
Experts say that the most consistently fraught relationships are among a mother and her daughter. The mother might see her daughter as a reflection of herself and feels closer with a daughter (emotionally and physically) than a son.
A mother might want to protect her daughter from making the same mistakes that she once did or opportunities that she never had before. However, at the same time, the daughter is likely trying to find her own individuality.
Roni Cohen-Sandler, PhD, shares why mothers and daughters fight and how you can repair a conflicted relationship.