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How Much Sex Should You Have?

How Much Sex Should You Have?
A 40-year study from 2015 surveyed more than 30,000 Americans and found that couples who have sex at least once a week are the happiest. 

How much sex is enough? Should you put a number on happiness? Are you and your partner on the same page?

Reflecting on your youth, you may find that intimacy and sexuality weren’t expressed in a positive and healthy way. Did your parents turn off network television when the scenes got too steamy? Were your parents observably affectionate for one another? The sexuality you observed in your younger years can influence your attitude toward sex as an adult.

It’s easier to avoid sexuality and focus on areas where you succeed, especially if you feel critical of your own performance or are uncomfortable in the bedroom. For example, you may decide to place energy in something like painting or exercise instead of sharing intimacy.

Technology and media may set you up for dissatisfaction and insecurity. You consume information that tells you how you should look and feel about sex. Stop comparing your relationship to others.

So, How Much Sex is Enough?

You should have enough sex to nourish your relationship. It is as important as your health. You must make it a priority.

If you’re in agreement with your partner and feel good about what’s happening in the bedroom, you’re having enough sex. You’re connecting. That’s the important thing.

Listen as Dr. Mary Andres joins Dr. Pamela Peeke to discuss how much sex you should be having.


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Featured Speaker:
Mary Andres, PsyD
Dr. Mary AndresMary Andres, PsyD, is a Professor in the Rossier School of Education at the University of Southern California and the Co-Coordinator of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program.  

She has been a Licensed Clinical Psychologist since 1998 and has a private practice in Venice, CA, specializing in couples therapy, sexuality, and identity concerns. Her courses in the Masters of Marriage and Family Therapy program address sexuality, counseling skills, family systems and couples therapy.  

Dr. Andres is a past president of the USC Advisory Board for the LGBT Center and was a Co-President and board member of the USC Lambda Alumni Association. She presents frequently at professional conferences and local facilities about Couples’ Therapy and How To Talk to Your Clients About Sex and has a chapter coming out in the second edition of Quickies: A Guide to Brief Sex Therapy.