Perfectionism: Debunking the All-or-Nothing Mindset

From the Show: Wellness for Life
Summary: Are you someone who is constantly striving for "the best of the best"?
Air Date: 9/18/15
Duration: 10
Host: Susanne Bennett, DC
Guest Bio: Jane Bluestein, PhD
Jane-BluesteinA dynamic and entertaining speaker, Dr. Jane Bluestein has worked with thousands of educators, counselors, healthcare professionals, parents, childcare workers, and other community members world-wide. She has appeared internationally as a speaker and talk-show guest, including several appearances as a guest expert on CNN, National Public Radio and The Oprah Winfrey Show.

Dr. Bluestein specializes in programs and resources geared to provide practical and meaningful information, training and hope in areas related to relationship building, effective instruction and guidance, and personal development. Much of her work focuses on interactions between adults and children, especially children at risk. Her down-to-earth speaking style, practicality, sense of humor, and numerous stories and examples make her ideas clear and accessible to her audiences.

Jane is an award-winning author whose books include Creating Emotionally Safe Schools; High School’s Not Forever; 21st Century Discipline; Being a Successful Teacher; Parents in a Pressure Cooker; Parents, Teens, & Boundaries; The Parent’s Little Book of Lists: Do’s and Don’ts of Effective Parenting; Mentors, MastersMrs. McGregor: Stories of Teachers Making a Difference; and Magic, Miracles & Synchronicity: A Journal of Gratitude and Awareness. Dr. Bluestein’s latest books include The Win-Win Classroom, Becoming a Win-Win Teacher, and Managing 21st Century Classrooms.

Formerly a classroom teacher (in inner-city Pittsburgh, PA), crisis-intervention counselor, teacher training program coordinator, and volunteer with high-risk teens at a local Day Treatment Program, Dr. Bluestein currently heads Instructional Support Services, Inc., a consulting and resource firm in Albuquerque, New Mexico.
  • Book Title: The Perfection Deception: Why Trying to Be Perfect Is Sabotaging Your Relationships, Making You Sick, and Holding Your Happiness Hostage
  • Guest Facebook Account: https://www.facebook.com/doctorbluestein
  • Guest Twitter Account: @janebluestein
Perfectionism: Debunking the All-or-Nothing Mindset
The definition of perfectionism is the tendency to set rigid high standards of performance of one's self and others, along with the inability to accept mistakes or imperfections in matters of personal appearance, care of the home, or work.

Perfectionism may be accompanied by an obsession of completeness, purity or goodness.

What a difficult existence that could be, if you're someone who is constantly striving for "the best of the best."  

Dr. Jane Bluestein, author of The Perfection Deception: Why Trying to Be Perfect Is Sabotaging Your Relationships, Making You Sick, and Holding Your Happiness Hostage, joins Dr. Susanne to share why perfection can be a severe detriment to your life and happiness. 

Dr. Jane also discusses how parents can encourage their kids' success without necessarily encouraging perfectionism.