Overcoming Everyday Obstacles

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RadioMD Presents: Wellness for Life Radio | Original Air Date: February 27, 2015
Host: Susanne Bennett, DC
Guest: Cheryl Liew-Chng, Author

It’s time to feel better with help from Dr. Susanne Bennett. Allergies, nutrition, ultimate wellness—all discussed right here, right now. It’s Wellness for Life Radio on RadioMD. Here’s your host, Dr. Susanne.

It’s time to feel better with help from Dr. Susanne Bennett. Allergies, nutrition, ultimate wellness—all discussed right here, right now. It’s Wellness for Life Radio on RadioMD. Here’s your host, Dr. Susanne.

DR. SUSANNE: Between family, work and our “to do” list, women are busier than ever before. I know I fall into the same trap of wishing there were more than 24 hours in a single day because I manage an extremely busy life, as many of us do.

Now, my next guest is here to share how you can start to overcome the challenge of being too busy, how to stop being overwhelmed and start to enjoy your life instead of constantly chipping away at these tasks that we deal with every day.

Please welcome the author of The 24-Hour Woman, Cheryl Liew Chng.

Hi, Cheryl.

CHERYL: Hey, Susanne. Great to be on your show.

DR. SUSANNE: Oh, thank you so much.

Now, in this whole busyness of daily life, we’re constantly trying to navigate our work/life challenges, so how do we do that successfully? What should we be doing?

CHERYL:  Well, I would say first off, let’s take some time off and appreciate what you have and appreciate your achievements over the years. We all are standing on a position of strength and very often we forget that in the busyness of life and in everything that we are trying solve. In my practice with coaching and training women from around the world, those that have lived happy, fulfilled and truly successful lives on their own terms, one of the fundamental practices that we all recognize is that there’s a sense of appreciation and gratitude. So, for me pillar number one for the 24 hour woman is about appreciating where she is right now and identifying the growth that she has already achieved and celebrating and recognizing the opportunity to be growing even more and even further with all that is happening.

The second thing that we need to be really, really acutely aware of in the midst of all this noise that’s around us is to be aware of where you are right now--of where you want to be. For that to happen, you would need to have the clarity of really, what is our legacy? What do we want to building every single day? And, because you are, then, aware of your legacy, you’re very involved on a day-to-day basis to create a success around that. So pillar number one is appreciation. Pillar number two is awareness. Pillar number four is a sense of acceptance. Wherever you are, whatever your state, is “I’ve heard so many women say, ‘Oh, I can’t do that because…’” but let’s change the conversation and say that “I can do that in spite of” because acknowledging and having acceptance of where we are doesn’t mean that there’s a sense of denial or there’s acquiescence. They’re just saying “Yes. I’m taking stock. I know where this is now and I’m accepting and it I’m using it, however, as my launching pad instead.” So, accept where you are and move on. Change the conversation. That’s readying our mind.

So then, there is health pillar number four, a sense of accountability. It’s about the discipline to do more or less of what is needed to continue with the journey towards our legacy. It’s not about finding fault or putting blame, but yes, I take stock and I take account accountability and I move on. Now, that is a sense of hope and optimism. The 24 hour woman is happy and vibrant and fulfilled because there’s a sense of optimism that she’s having the momentum to be moving to towards her legacy and building toward it every single day which brings me, then to pillar number five.

This is really about action. The 24 hour woman is a woman of action, but do not be caught by surprise that by her sitting silent and keeping still is not an inaction. In fact, that is a very proactive, a very difficult action to take. Just to sit still and wait for things to move on and to find the right timing to take action. So, being still is not an inaction. Being still is an action—one of the most deliberate pieces about taking action so that she’s engaged in that which is strategy, bringing about her legacy and her goals. So, the five that I’ve seen have been very powerful when it comes together.

Appreciation, acceptance, accountability, things about taking action. These are the five. Appreciate things that are around you. Being aware, acutely aware. Taking a sense of being and acting where you are right now, but using it as a strength and launching pad. Taking accountability as you maneuver and then taking action. These are the five.

Sorry. Go ahead.

DR. SUSANNE: No, I love what you’re saying because it’s so important to be able to utilize these tools every day and you could actually talk about it every day. Put those out there and make sure that you are living that life that you want to lead and it doesn’t have to be right away either, does it? I mean, Cheryl, a lot of us are like, “Oh, we’re getting so old and I’ve got to get all these things done within such a short period of time.” Everyone has kind of like a timeframe, but using your pillars, we can really do that for the rest of our lives, can’t we?

CHERYL: Absolutely. There’s no time. You’re not bound by time. It’s about everything in the moment, living fullness and being engaged. You know, I’ve had women that ask themselves multiple times in a day, “How aware am I? Am I back in the present? Am I aware of what’s happening? Am I taking action or is it a strategy time to be inactive around this at this point in time?” Do not be framed by the amount of time, and then try to hurry through it because hurrying through it sometimes does not give you the result that you want. It’s really being engaged and enjoying and being fulfilled and happy at the end of the day rather than disillusioned and disappointed at the end of the day because you’re only giving yourself a 24-hour timeframe. Give yourself a longer horizon and enjoy the journey and that is part of living a happy, active and a well life.

DR. SUSANNE: That’s great. You know, there’s one statement that you say. It’s one of your practices in your book. “I will not wear a ski jacket on a tropical vacation.” Can you explain that?

CHERYL: Yes. Well, that’s one of my favorites and that came about as I wrote the book around the five pillars and I wanted something that the community of women that I am working with have something that they can live by, something that they can paste on the walls and all and remind them, that “I will not wear a ski jacket.” No. That’s why being aware of what are your circumstances and accepting it is important so that you do not gear yourself up for the wrong occasion. You do not have the expectations that are going to bring disillusionment. If you are raising a young family right now, one of the key pieces of not wearing a ski jacket is, if you are thinking of having an international practice and raising a young family, what does that mean? Are you wearing a ski jacket on a tropical vacation? Because that time, too, will pass and then you can have your tropical vacation and then your ski vacation, but the thing is, being [inaudible 08:13] at the right fit at the right time.

DR. SUSANNE: That’s important.

CHERYL: That’s important for you to enjoy that part of that journey because it’s going to serve you well as you move on to the next phase in life, whether your career or your personal life or your family life. Managing expectations of not wearing a ski jacket on a tropical vacation.

DR. SUSANNE: Love that. Love that concept. You know, you’ve really got to be prepared for this and the situation that we’re all in, whether it’s the timing, whether it’s who your with, your audience, all that. You know, everyone, you can get the book—Cheryl’s book—The 24-hour Woman, by looking at DrSusanne.com/24hourwoman. Meaning Dr. Susanne, S-U-S-A-N-N-E.com/24 (and that’s the number 2-4) hour woman. And, by going there, you’re going to be able to look at her videos and get access on how to get amazing, amazing content and also get her book. It’s a fantastic book.

Thank you so much Cheryl. For more information, also you can go to my Wellness for Life radio page on RadioMD.

Thank you so much for listening. Until next time, I’m Dr. Susanne sharing natural strategies for ultimate health and wellness right here on RadioMD.

Stay well everyone.

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